When people come to me with problems often they think of their problems as “irrational”.
The really interesting part is that their emotional response is always the bit that is irrational.
It doesn’t enter their minds that perhaps the most irrational part of what is going on is that they are they are believing their logical thinking.
Human beings are remarkable poor at using logic, despite all our efforts. We are incredibly self-deluding, and disturbingly unaware of most of what goes on in our lives.
So give your emotions a break.
Here is a first step to making sure you have a health relationship with your emotions.
Check for any emotional reactions that you think are “irrational”, or that you are “battling”.
I’m not going to try to convince you that your emotions are correct or that you should give in to them. I don’t know you or your emotions, and yes emotions aren’t always the most accurate guide either.
But here is the question.
Can you think of a time when that emotional reaction WOULD be exactly what you want to have happen in your life?
Emotions are part of the range of being human, so where do they fit appropriately into your life, even if only in rare circumstances.
If you are doing this as an academic exercise and don’t have a personal example, then let me set a few challenges for you.
Where would you like to have a phobia in your life?
Where would you like to hesitate more, or be confused?
Where would it be appropriate to have a craving in your life?
Where would you like to be more stubborn?
All these emotions have a place in a healthy human being. Rather than avoid them, how about figuring out where they fit for you?
-Dr Martin Russell