In my therapy work I have pretty much given up using the word forgiveness.
Not because it is a bad idea – heck no. Forgiveness is a key self help skill for being an effective human being.
It’s just that the people who most need to use forgiveness in their lives, have also been the ones who have the most terrible and dangerously twisted misconceptions about what the term means.
It does NOT mean to continue to accept harm or damage to yourself.
It does NOT have anything to do with losing face, “weakening”, or giving in to someone.
I don’t suggest you have anything to do with that sort of corruption of “forgiveness”.
I am speaking to you direct.
If your first reaction to the idea of forgiveness is that is unsuitable or dangerous in your particular situation, then let me give you my firm opinion based on all my years of counseling…
- You are EXACTLY the person who needs to understand what real forgiveness is, and you are wasting your life and knee-capping your chances of helping yourself, if you don’t get started on doing it correctly ASAP.
Here’s all the instruction manual you need to get started and done…
-Dr Martin Russell